You are not required to sleep with everyone that wants to sleep with you.

Breya M. Johnson: Sometimes we have big emotional needs in our lives that we just want met and we project those needs onto people who never consented to meeting them… Now you’re looking at that person with anger and disappointment that’s not actually about them.

We want people to hold all our stuff so badly. We get upset with people for not performing well in roles we silently assigned to them.

And I don’t know how many of us need to hear this but a person not meeting your needs is not inherently malicious. Every unmet need does not have to translate to ill intent.